Christmas time can be a very selfless and/or a very selfish time of year. It can bring out the good, the bad and the ugly in us. Maybe it's all about 'togetherness,' it's a tricky interpersonal pool to wade through and it got me thinking...
I resolve to appreciate people for who they are and not what they can do for me.
People are so cool. What you see is almost never what you get - which is what makes life exciting right? So, I'm resolving to have self-less relationships this year. I want to enjoy getting to know people without expectation or objective - other than to find out who they are. I don't need to worry about how they're treating me, what they are or are not doing for me or how I am otherwise affected, because honestly, if I am enjoying getting to know them, they are probably pretty cool people.
So, I probably have a tendency to do this anyway. But this year, I am going to do it mindfully. It's frustrating to me that our society produces us to walk around engrossed in ourselves and only look to others for what they can add to our wealth (in a variety of areas). Do they make us happy? Do they treat us right? Are the good enough for us? What have they done to deserve me? Ladies, self-esteem is important and fantastic. We all need to feel beautiful, worthy, and valuable...but not at the expense of someone else (yes, even men). We are beautiful, wonderful people and so are others. We cannot ever realize the richness of the humanity in ourselves if we cannot see it in others - even others that are not doing anything for us.