Sunday, February 28, 2010
Just Say "No" to Friending...
I am not Facebook friends with the guy I've been dating for the last 3.5 months. I like it this way, for many reasons. Earlier today we briefly discussed, in passing, the possibility of us becoming Facebook friends...but the more I think about this, the less keen I am on it. After further reflection, I'd argue that refraining from "friending" a potential is probably one of the most savvy and radical things a dater can do here in the year 2010. Here's my argument against it:
1. A relationship that exists entirely in real-time.
I am getting to know him face-to-face and everything I am learning, I am doing so through our conversations/interactions...not Wall hearsay or tagged photos from the 11th grade. If I am curious about his favorite book, movie or quote, I have to actually ask him. This can sometimes be inconvenient, but delayed gratification builds character.
2. Facebook stalking becomes intensely difficult, if not impossible.
**I'm not necessarily saying I would ever think to do this...(cough)**
I don't need to know his every cyber-move, know which events he has RSVPd for, or view his tagged pictures from evenings out not spent together. These things are none of either of our business until they actually are (which is till TBA).
3. The whole Facebook "Relationship Status" controversy and/or awkwardness stays irrelevant.
Whoever thought of this feature apparently did not think it all the way through. Relationship status changes make for seriously uncomfortable breakups and mawkish public displays of cyber affection that we could all live without.
4.***Okay, I'll admit to this one too: So, I'm a bit of a Facebook whore.
It could be a little embarrassing for him to find out how often I update my status...I mean, I don't really care all that much. But still.
What's your take?